Life Lessons




We recently went on an adventure, a river cruise down the Rhine River from Basel Switzerland to Amsterdam Netherlands. It took us through some of the most scenic and historic areas of Germany, France and the Netherlands.

The age of what we saw was measured not in decades but in hundreds and thousands of years. There was a wisdom there, of hearts and hands and psyches being burned by the experience of time that we in America fail to see. The essence, the element of man is there and has been here for many thousands of years unlike the adolescence of America and the Democracy that we hold dear. Lessons seem to have been learned there.

Call me crazy, mistaken or just someone with a wild imagination, but I could feel the undercurrent of past intolerance. I could almost see the shiny black jackboots and galloping Crusades of armor heading off to right the imagined wrongs and to impose the will of their righteousness on the somehow less than superior us.

It was a bit jarring to see young soldiers in Strasbourg on the French border holding AK-47s at the ready. However, what I heard from the leaders of Europe was mostly of tolerance and steadfastness in the face of terror. Germany has pledged to welcome one million refugees. What I heard upon our return to America was calls for intolerance, hate, bigger walls and closed borders. We are still the most powerful nation on earth and yet the overwhelming response is fear.

Can we not see the lessons of the past? Can we see past the fear and decipher the hate from the reason? Perhaps we need to read the lessons of the past or perhaps the words of the one that we seek in times of trouble.

Sanctuary: Another Point of View






Sanctuary—what does it mean to you?

A sanctuary is any place of safety and can have many interpretations. It is any place where you can feel safe to think, say, or do whatever you want to without fear of reprisal.

Where is your sanctuary?  Do you have such a place? If you are really, really lucky, do you have SOMEONE who is your sanctuary?

Many people say that they find their sanctuary in church, or being out in nature. I immediately get a picture in my mind of Quasimodo up in that bell tower in “The Hunchback of Notre Dame” shouting “Sanctuary! Sanctuary!”

It is a very important concept to embrace, for we each need that refuge where we can feel safe and just be ourselves. But wait! Don’t we live in the good old U. S. of A. where we can think and say anything we want?

Consider another place. A place from which we can’t escape.

The strongest prison—the prison that has the highest walls—is the one in which we place ourselves. This is the jail where we are the judge, jury, jailer and executioner and oddly enough, we are the only ones with the key to set us free. The only one that can grant us sanctuary from our Selves.

The older I get, the more I realize that true freedom, the most precious and rewarding kind, is that sanctuary that is found in another human being. Someone that you can say anything to, share anything with, and get back only acceptance, love and understanding.

I’ve come to realize that not only do you have to unlock that door to let yourself out of your self-imposed prison, but you have to be brave enough to let someone in. And there lies the truth in counter-intuitive thought; that “vulnerability is a strength and not a weakness” and “freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose.”

Have you discovered the sanctuary that can exist in your relationship with your significant other? How can you tap into the happiness that resides in your mind, your heart, and your gut?

You already know how to do it; after all, you are the only one with the key. You are the only one who can build your own Sanctuary.

A Rose is a Rose…


In The Moment